The collaborative approach: How to avoid the “messy” divorce

On Behalf of | Mar 1, 2021 | Divorce

A recent in-depth article from the prominent health care website WebMD paints a few representative pictures of what the medical news provider terms “messy” divorces.

It is of course not hard to come up with a quick list of marriage-ending qualifiers that virtually ensure volatility and stress during the divorce process. We suspect that many readers of our blogs at the established Tampa family law firm of Quinn & Lynch could easily compile a list of possibilities.

WebMD has. The publication readily alludes to “fights over kids, hostile communication and other conflicts.” Couples battle over money matters, co-parenting specifics, spousal behaviors that have progressively ramped up distrust and myriad other points of contention.

It’s no wonder, underscores WebMD, that any of those stress points – or, as is true in many divorces, several of those triggers working in concert – can induce a high and even dangerously spiked level of angst both mentally and physically. Many divorcing partners need to pay attention to this and, when possible, explore potential routes for achieving dissolution goals while simultaneously dampening conflict and anger.

Collaborative divorce: a process often meriting a close look

Increasingly more divorcing couples in Florida and nationally are thankfully finding that there are dissolution processes that are often far more civil and even amicable than an adversarial decoupling that plays out in court.

Collaborative divorce is one such alternative. An authoritative legal overview of collaborative divorce stresses the team approach promoting enhanced communication, candor, civility and tailored solutions that the process features. Each side works with a proven attorney (ideally one with a demonstrated background in collaborative law) and neutral mental health and financial counselors.

A collaborative divorce is not an optimal process for guiding every marital ending. For many splitting couples, though, it can promote a win-win result that minimizes conflict, spurs savings of time and money and helps families continue to build bridges as they move forward following divorce.

An experienced collaborative divorce legal team can provide further information.