Over the years, studies have shown that collaborative divorce often leads to better outcomes for both parties.
However, not every couple is in a situation that may allow for collaborative divorce to exist as a realistic option. What situations work well for it, and what situations should lead to its avoidance?
Reasons to avoid the court
Forbes discusses the
benefits associated with collaborative divorce. Generally speaking, by opting for collaboration, both parties can avoid taking the case to court. This allows for a more streamlined and less expensive divorce process. On top of that, because it is not in the court, no public information gets recorded in court documents.
These three benefits alone – saving of time, money, and privacy – ensures this remains a popular option among divorcing couples. However, collaborative divorce largely works for a select group of people.
What couples need to collaborate
First, those going into collaboration need the ability to work civilly with their partner. Note that this does not mean partners have to agree on every little thing. However, they must put aside their differences and emotions in order to reach mutually agreeable decisions.
Next, those going into collaboration must have the ability to compromise. Collaboration means both partners work together to reach an end destination that both can live with. If one party wants everything to go their way and refuses to compromise over anything, collaboration will not work.
Of course, if one partner has accusations of abuse or mistreatment, collaboration will not serve as a good option, either. In such cases, it is often better to get the official legal decision of a judge in a court of law.